I have observed how quickly we, as humans, tend to blame an external factor or a person for our bad and good experiences. This is a common reaction, one that many of us share.

It's a rare few who pause to consider that the emotions they're feeling may be a direct result of their own choices over time. For instance, if you're feeling angry, it could be because you've allowed a situation to escalate rather than addressing it calmly. Instead of blaming the other person, you could have taken a deep breath, expressed your feelings calmly, and tried to find a solution. By taking a moment to reflect on our actions and decisions, we can regain control over our emotions and steer our lives in a more positive direction.

Yes, there can be instances where the second party is to be blamed, but people often show their true intent, habits, and behaviour early on when you are dealing with them—personally or professionally.

Here's a valuable insight for the future: Pay attention to what people do, not what they say. This approach will lead you closer to the truth than any other.

If someone always boasts of achieving certain things and ends up doing nothing, how do you rely on them? How do you trust someone when they are not following through on what they have said?

Now, dial this energy back to yourself. No one is perfect. There must have been instances in your life where you'd have committed to a certain project or an activity but ended up not doing it. Does this make you a bad person? Do you have to repent for this?

Well, that will be tricky for me to answer, but you can always ask yourself if what you did was right or at least what you thought was right. This kind of self-reflection is crucial for personal growth, as it allows us to learn from our experiences and make better decisions in the future.

To take yourself seriously is the first step towards building that confidence you require to rely on yourself.

The second step would be to tell the truth - Always.

The last and the final step where many of us give up or continue to give up is when things get boring.

Remember, routine is not a hindrance, but a tool for progress. Some people thrive on such routines, and some get bored of them and chase different goals altogether, ending up doing nothing. Embrace the routine, and you'll see the seeds of personal growth being sown. This reassurance can give you the confidence to stick to your routine, knowing that it's leading you towards your goals.

Recognize that monotony will inevitably be a part of your life, and it's not something you should run away from. Routine, however, can help manage this monotony by providing structure and purpose to your days. Accepting this reality and using routine to manage it is a crucial step toward your personal growth.

You get to become a person people can trust and rely upon. You get to become a strong pillar and support system for those you care about.

The quality of your life gets better when you tell the truth and follow through on what you say. More than others, you will end up feeling better about your life, and this will reinforce confidence in yourself.